About thehecklist

CEO of the New York Peace Institute, Adjunct Professor at New York University's Center for Global Affairs. On twitter @hecksign and @NewYorkPeace.

last call to build some peace with us this fiscal year.

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Dear friends,

We’re two days away from beginning our fifth year as New York Peace Institute!  We’ve done so much — and there’s so much left to do, and we need your help. Our free services help thousands of New Yorkers prevent violence, heal relationships, build community, and create peace. Our work is needed now more than ever. Here’s a bit of what we’ve been up to:

— We’re working to dismantle the school to prison pipeline, facilitating conversations in schools to help kids on the verge of expulsion stay in school and become the leaders they deserve to be.

— We’re putting restorative justice on the map in NYC — helping individuals, groups, families and communities find ways to heal, undo the harm, make amends and move forward in the wake of crime and disruptions.

— We’re turning cops into mediators! At a challenging time for civilian-police relationships, we’re intensively training NYPD officers from various precincts to use mediation skills on the beat, and to refer disputes to mediation citywide.

— We’ve been providing vital communication skills to neighborhood groups, community-based organizations, city agencies — and even NASA!

— We’re raising the profile of mediation and peacebuiding in the media — from the New York Times to the Wall Street Journal to News 12 to NASH Radio to Telemundo.

Most importantly, we’ve touched the lives of thousands of people over the past year, through the heroic work of our 400-plus mediators, amazing staff, stellar board, and wonderful partners.

As we wind up our fiscal year at the end of June, please consider donating what you can to New York Peace Institute. And we have a very specific need for your help.  We strive to build our mediator pool to be reflective of the communities we serve.  We want to offer more mediation scholarships to New Yorkers who represent the diversity of our city. A full scholarship that will help a community member become come a New York Peace Institute mediator costs $2000.

We also want to continue to offer mediation to New Yorkers in need regardless of their language. The cost of an interpreter for a typical mediation session is $140.

Any amount you can spare toward these goals will be a huge help. We’re wrapping up our fiscal year on June 30 — and of course we will be honored to accept your generosity next fiscal year as well. You can make your tax-deductible gift here.

With deepest gratitude,
Brad
BRAD HECKMAN
CEO

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We’ve updated our media round-up — check us out on the TV, radio, print media and internets.

Here we are on News 12.

Our very own Case Manager, Aura Sotomayor and Mediator Olga Perez were featured on Telemundo. Watch here!

The edgy website ANIMALnewyork wrote about us: “Meet the People Who Keep New Yorkers from Ripping Each Others Heads Off.”

Listen to an interview with CEO Brad Heckman on the Earbud University Podcast.

Brad was also interviewed on NASH Radio (a country music station…in NYC!)

Read “The Art of Mediation: Local Lessons for International Peacemakers,” an article in the Global Observatory.

Here’s our very own Carol Lieb Himes on Special Education mediation, here and here!

Our very own Restorative Justice Coordinator, Carrie McCann, was featured on the Rebbe Radical Rev Show. Listen here.

We were featured in the Wall Street Journal! Read the article here.

The New York Times interviewed us in their Real Estate section about neighbor problems. And then they did it again!

Brad writes “On Bob Dylan and Reverse International Development” for the Nebraska Mediation Association.

The Conflict Specialists Show podcast interviewed Brad, as did Voice America Radio .

Watch Brad’s TEDx Talk, “Mediation and Mindfully Getting in the Middle”

Dickinson Magazine profiled Brad.

Elle Magazine’s September fashion issue features a great article about our mediation training.

The New York Daily News published a piece on landlord-tenant issues, featuring a link to our blog on communication tips.

TimeOut New York’s roommate issue featured an interview with Brad and our friend Sheila Sproule about coping with cohabitation conflicts.

The Cooperator, the largest online publication about coop and condo living, published a short piece about mediation, featuring us alongside the wonderful National Association for Community Mediation (NAFCM).

Brick Underground, a popular NYC housing blog, includes us in their panel of experts. Read about how to deal with noisy, nude, smoking neighbors.

Texas conflict guru Pattie Porter interviewed Brad for her podcast, in a segment called “Fugghetaboutit….and move forward: Mediation, New York-Style.”

We’re profiled in the online publication Peace Is Sexy (which is actually quite G-rated, so you can click on whilst at work).

We’ve even been featured it the astrology blog of the fabulous Kiki T – Tyra Banks’ on-air stargazer, among other things.

Here we are on News 12.

Our very own Case Manager, Aura Sotomayor and Mediator Olga Perez were featured on Telemundo. Watch here!

The edgy website ANIMALnewyork wrote about us: “Meet the People Who Keep New Yorkers from Ripping Each Others Heads Off.”

Listen to an interview with CEO Brad Heckman on the Earbud University Podcast.

Brad was also interviewed on NASH Radio (a country music station…in NYC!)

Read “The Art of Mediation: Local Lessons for International Peacemakers,” an article in the Global Observatory.

Here’s our very own Carol Lieb Himes on Special Education mediation, here and here!

Our very own Restorative Justice Coordinator, Carrie McCann, was featured on the Rebbe Radical Rev Show. Listen here.

We were featured in the Wall Street Journal! Read the article here.

The New York Times interviewed us in their Real Estate section about neighbor problems. And then they did it again!

Brad writes “On Bob Dylan and Reverse International Development” for the Nebraska Mediation Association.

The Conflict Specialists Show podcast interviewed Brad, as did Voice America Radio .

Watch Brad’s TEDx Talk, “Mediation and Mindfully Getting in the Middle”

Dickinson Magazine profiled Brad.

Elle Magazine’s September fashion issue features a great article about our mediation training.

The New York Daily News published a piece on landlord-tenant issues, featuring a link to our blog on communication tips.

TimeOut New York’s roommate issue featured an interview with Brad and our friend Sheila Sproule about coping with cohabitation conflicts.

The Cooperator, the largest online publication about coop and condo living, published a short piece about mediation, featuring us alongside the wonderful National Association for Community Mediation (NAFCM).

Brick Underground, a popular NYC housing blog, includes us in their panel of experts. Read about how to deal with noisy, nude, smoking neighbors.

Texas conflict guru Pattie Porter interviewed Brad for her podcast, in a segment called “Fugghetaboutit….and move forward: Mediation, New York-Style.”

We’re profiled in the online publication Peace Is Sexy (which is actually quite G-rated, so you can click on whilst at work).

We’ve even been featured it the astrology blog of the fabulous Kiki T – Tyra Banks’ on-air stargazer, among other things.

you say the nicest things.

milesIn our 40-hour bootcamp-meets-bandcamp Basic Mediation Training, you’ll learn side by side with UN diplomats, teachers, actors, lawyers, homemakers, activists, cops, and more. It’s a deeply moving experience — for our trainees, and for us as well. I thought I’d toot our horn a bit and share some of our participants’ feedback.  FYI, there are a couple slots left in our March 27-31 training in case you want to join New York City’s largest civilian peacebuilding force (us!)

It should be required training for every New Yorker.

The trainers do an excellent job. Even if people don’t want to go into mediation, it will help them grow personally.

New York Peace Institute opened my eyes to the myriad of applications of mediation. Forty hours flew by!

Great skills to apply in business or in life.

New York Peace Institute gave me the skills to handle complex conflict situations from the grassroots level to the national government level in Somalia.

A fun, interactive experience where you learn a lot about yourself. Mediation skills can be used in all facets of your life.

An excellent opportunity to grow as an individual and peacemaker.

An invaluable training – even if you have no intention of being a mediator.

You jam so much information down our throats, but it goes down like honey.

I’m from Iraq, and I learned over these days together that Americans truly believe in peace.

This training has changed my life.

The training is exceptional. The trainers are super competent and teach in a thorough yet fun way.

Taking an entire field and condensing it into 5 days of training seems pretty lofty but New York Peace Institute does it flawlessly while empowering its students.

A true learning environment where passion and education come together.

One of the most transformative experiences of my life.

Great learning environment that crafts fun and informative techniques to teach mediation.

The best training I’ve ever experienced, and I’ve been to hundreds.

It’s not giving up a weekend — it’s spending it with new friends who are smart, interesting, community-minded, while watching videos, talking, and learning.

Farewell, Rosie.

rosieFolks, Ms. Mary Doyle Keefe, the model for Normal Rockwell’s iconic Rosie the Riveter poster, just passed away. Rosie is our icon for a key value of mediation — clients’s self-determination. Above is my marker-on-flipchart-paper facsimile of Rosie, which we trot out in our trainings.

Self-determination means that our clients cannot be coerced, judged, or manipulated into any agreements. It means that mediators are the humble servants to our clients — this is their process, their time, their conversation. We can’t impose our values, ideas, suggestions, or opinions on our wonderful clients. Our job is to provide a safe space for the conversation they need to have — and maybe we can be the catalyst that helps parties constructively move forward in the wake of conflict. Our mediators are heroic and all kinds of awesome, but we see our clients as the true heroes of our work — having the courage to have tough, sometimes heart-wrenching, conversations, in the presence of strangers.

Rosie’s slogan was We Can Do It — a call to action for American women in World War II to join the war effort by taking on factory jobs traditionally held by men. It implied a fierce spirit of empowerment in the face of gender stereotypes. We want our clients to feel similarly empowered in their mediations. (I’ve had more than one training participant point out the imperfections of my visual metaphor, but in all fairness, I’m not very good with metaphors and similes and such.)

Farewell, Mary, and thanks for the inspiration. And apologies to the family of Norman Rockwell for my less-than-flattering rendition.

Post-script: I just learned that my image above is not, in fact, an homage to the original Rosie as depicted by Normal Rockwell, but is rather based on a poster by J. Howard Miller. Huh.

 

Show your support for New York Peace Institute while having some laughs at our comedy benefit We Can Smirk It Out on May 5th!